Not only did it make some of her family's behavior that I've observed make sense, it also explains why she was..."unhappy" about our wedding.
First, here are a few things about my family:
- My immediate family is large (I'm the second of 10 kids), and my extended family is more of the same.
- Even though no two of my mom's siblings live in the same state, there's always communication, ranging from family reunions to homeschooled kids being passed from family to family to casual spending the night on the way to somewhere else.
- My parents married off three of their kids (me, a brother, and a sister) in a five-month period--and with an extended family the size of ours, weddings, graduations, etc. happen with monotonous frequency.
- My relatives range geographically from Alaska to Arkansas.
Thus, when Child and I were married, a few nearby aunts and uncles showed up to say hi and offer their congratulations, but that was about it. They didn't consider it a big deal, and neither did I.
Child, on the other hand, did. I think Child consciously understands that my relatives weren't trying to make some point by not attending, but I think her subconscious still equates their not Showing Up with an active dislike of her/us/whatever.